The task of finding the path that is unique to you in life is very important. No one can do this for you. It is possible to help – or better enable – another, but you cannot, and ought not, take over this task for another person. This is something to be discovered in life for each one of us, and there is a reason behind this quest. We have to search out and discover our own identity. This journey of finding one’s self is in many ways the most important journey that you make in life and determines more than anything else a whole series of things for you such as the quality of your life, the depth of your relationships, and the freedom that you achieve in terms of expressing yourself in your life. Thomas Merton puts it in terms of each person working out one’s own personal salvation. Each individual is responsible for living his or her life and in that sense ‘finding himself or herself.’ Merton warns that if you do not take up this task, ‘shifting this responsibility to somebody else,’ then you will fail to find out the meaning of your own life.